I am sick of witnessing women being spiteful to each other on the internet, face to face or otherwise over the subject of looks. It really is sad that seemingly people would rather tear each other to shreds than just to live or let live or heaven forbid actually be nice.
In light of this, here are some positive things to think about:
1) If you wake up one morning and are feeling particularly good about yourself – bright-eyed and bushy tailed – and make a statement of such, there will always be people will interpret this as being arrogant or over-confident – feel good anyway. There is no god-given right with which people may judge or try to censor how you feel about yourself.
2) Thinking a particular outfit you’re considering wearing might provoke negative comments or reactions from other people? Wear it regardless. You probably bought it because when you tried it on it felt good and looked good – those facts don’t have to change because of other people’s comments.
3) Petty comments are just that – petty. Don’t let them spoil your day.
4) Feeling like you pale in comparison to someone else, maybe a friend or someone close? Stop competing. That person’s unique experiences have made them the unique individual they are – as yours have done the same for you. Nobody is better or worse as a result of this – merely different. Also, your grass-is-greener attitude only lets you see what you perceive to be good – you have no idea what may be happening beneath the surface.
5) You are feeling good about a new haircut, having lost weight, or new clothes but nobody comments or notices. It doesn’t matter. You should be feeling good for you, not for other people. Treat validation as a bonus, not a right that you expect of others.
6) There are things about all of us that annoy and frustrate other people, and people are generally more likely to comment upon faults than they are upon the good things. That doesn’t mean they don’t notice the good traits or that those traits have stopped existing. There’s nothing wrong with constructive criticism, as long as it is constructive.
The world would be a much nicer place if everyone replaced one spiteful or negative comment with a positive or kind one.